Kleinheider Pulls No Punches
Excellent post by A.C. Kleinheider on divorce over at Hard Right.
Good advice is given to the young mum but what jumped out at me were these passages:
Divorce — amicable and otherwise — stinks, and though I believe that most amicably divorced families work things out quite well, it’s hard, hard, hard. Unless there is clear abuse or neglect involved, children prefer for their parents to be together...
...This lady needs to work on the problem instead of blowing up her kids’ lives. It is her job to take care of them, first and foremost. Their trust of her is on the line.
Yes, the children's welfare should be first and foremost on the woman's mind. But, well, what if she didn't have kids? Then it's okay? The whole argument against divorce seems to rest on the kids. She has a responsibility to her children, of course, but also to her husband. She's not happy anymore? They've fallen out of love? They've grown apart?
Well, boo-hoo, join the frickin' unhappy human race. Marriage is a sacred vow, a promise. I'm gonna look out for you for life and you're gonna look out for me -- for life. That's the deal. So much of "relationship" talk seems to center on the woman's happiness and needs. Marriage is an institution, not a Happy Factory.
Some guy picked this women. She said yes. For better or for worse and all that. This doesn't absolve the husband's responsibility to serve his wife's needs the best he can but unless he is abusive or adulterous, kids or no kids, she needs to suck it up. "Fake it 'til you make it" goes for happiness in a marriage -- as well as the other thing.
A.C. lives up to his blog's name. Sometimes what is right is hard.
Michael Brendan Dougherty
in Lifestyle Friday
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